While a receiving line is usually only seen at a wedding or engagement party, we rarely had an event at the White House without one. A receiving line consists of the host and hostess – and a guest of honor if there is one – standing at the entrance to the party to greet the guests. Since the invention of the camera, the receiving line at the White House has taken on Cosmic Significance. A photo with the President is what guests want, and it doesn’t matter if they’ve had their picture with the President many times. Guests who are supporters of the President point to their photo and say, “This is how close we are!” The ones who didn’t support the President point to their photo and say “This is how important I am! I got invited to the White House and I don’t even like the guy!”
With so many fall weddings coming up, if you’re planning on having a receiving line or being a guest who goes through one, here are a few things to remember:
- Make sure the receiving line is located in an area that allows guests to enter from one place and exit at another. Ideally, the receiving line should flow into the reception area. It’s rude to have guests stacked up outside, possibly in unpleasant weather, waiting uncomfortably to go through the line.
- The greeters in a receiving line need to be briefed on how to keep the receiving line moving. This is not the time for a meaningful discussion; it is a moment of greeting, a handshake, or a quick buss on the cheek. There’s a move that most politicians use to keep things going: the leading handshake. Grasp the guest’s hand, and while you’re talking, move your clasped hands down the line. The guest automatically follows his own hand and keeps moving. If the guest doesn’t get the picture, a dramatically affectionate shoulder squeeze or pat on the back (with adjoining push) will have a similar effect.
- On the other side of the receiving line, as a guest, don’t be the person who takes that moment to tell a long story. Remember there are people waiting behind you, and a receiving line is meant to be a quick hello.
- Have a comment prepared for each person in the receiving line. “What a beautiful bride you are!” “How great to see you!” “Such a happy day!” Any positive exclamation gives the host somewhere to start and avoids that awkward moment when your eyes meet and silence ensues. If you don’t know the people you’re greeting, a pleasant comment is a graceful way to say something nice and move on.
- Don’t manhandle the hosts. Try to remember that your hosts are greeting many people, and a succession of crushing handshakes, sloppy kisses and bear hugs can turn a receiving line into a serial case of aggravated assault for them.
- The protocol of the receiving line for a wedding should be: mother of the bride, father of the bride, mother of the groom, father of groom and TA DAH – the bridal couple. Putting the bridal party into the receiving line after that is very formal, and can make guests feel that they’re running an endless gauntlet of sweaty palms, when all they really want is to get the party started.
- If there is a substantial crowd going through the receiving line, it’s nice to have a waiter on standby to offer water to the hosts, as they may become parched after so many greetings. If there’s an elderly or infirm person in the receiving line acting as a host, it’s wise to have a chair behind them, in case they need to take a breather.
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Remember the trick the military honor guards use when they must stand for long periods of time for a ceremony or parade: always bend one knee slightly. Locked knees for an extended period of time can cause vasovagal syncope (otherwise know as fainting). You want the day to be memorable, but for all the right reasons.
